When you have multiple children, it can get tricky when trying to divide your time equally for all of them, especially when you are tired from a long days work! Even if you find yourself spending a good amount of time with your kids day in and day out, I have found that it is important to set aside quality time for each child INDIVIDUALLY.
Whether it is one-on-one time with both mommy and daddy or time alone with just one parent, I think it’s beneficial to make sure you set time aside to accomplish both. Children need that one-on-one time with their moms just as much as they need one-on-one time with their dads. The main point is to make sure that the time set aside is for one child at a time.
It is important to remember that children are just like us. They strive to build relationships and feel loved. Taking time to do something that they love to do shows that you care about what interests them. It creates and builds a special bond between you and the child. And for those of you who have older children, it’s a great way to get to know them and allow them to open up and share things with you that they may not find the time to tell you at home.
So what are some ways you can do this?
Have someone watch your other children while you spend time with the one child. Go out and do something that he/she loves to do. It can be taking them to the park, out to eat ice cream, out to see a movie, etc. The main takeaway is you want to ask your child what they would like to do and do that if possible.
Now, while I’ve found it easier for me to get out to spend quality time with my oldest son, it is not always possible. There are some free things that you can do at home while your other children are either sleeping or occupied doing something else. Here are a few:
- Read books together
- Stay up later than their bedtime and play a game or watch a movie that they love
- Make their favorite dessert with them
Life is so busy and we all have our crazy schedules, but I encourage you to set time aside and plan a date to spend quality time with each of your children individually. You will see the benefits and won’t regret it!
Do you currently have one-on-one time with your children? If so, what are some things you love to do during that quality time? I’d love to hear from you!
Until next time.